The Gift of Memories

Monday, 19 December 2011 23:09 | Written by Judith Haynes |

For some, the asking of questions may be taxing to their memory. A conversation might begin with a friend or family member recalling a story that involved the loved one. If they do remember there may be a glint of recognition on their face, and they may then contribute to the story with their recollection. Regardless of the content or extensiveness of the response, it is always important to be an attentive listener, ― smiling, nodding, and sustaining eye contact.
Sometimes a loved one is unable to remember or verbalize what they remember, so a family may choose to show old slides or videos which include special times with Grandpa which hold special memories for the family members. The telling of stories and sharing humorous remembrances create an energy that is healing for the family, and may very well be perceived by the elder member being honored.
Maybe this year’s holiday could deviate from the usual and instead make the long held dream of a trip or an event that a loved one always wanted to come true. If that is not realistic, and if the loved one is able to take a car ride, a leisurely drive down memory lane could be very meaningful. While old schools may no longer stand where they once resided, driving through a part of town or countryside where Grandma lived as a child, and recalling the drug store that housed the soda fountain she and Grandpa would go to after school when they were young may prove therapeutic and enjoyable.
There is so much value in sharing now the stories, memories and sentiments that too often go unspoken. Family and friends who can openly communicate their love and value for each other are expressing treasures in ways that loved ones will hold priceless forever.

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